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Setting Boundaries with a Level 3 Consciousness Person

When dealing with someone operating at Level 3 consciousness (Opportunist), itโ€™s essential to show them how to treat you. These people often operate based on what they can get away with rather than what is fair or respectful.

Respect for others’ values and feelings is not a priority for them. Therefore, you must make it clear that respecting your values and feelings is a non-negotiable priority for you. If they want to interact with you, they must recognize and respect you as a person.

Hereโ€™s how to navigate it effectively:

๐—ฆ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐Ÿญ: ๐—˜๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€ ๐—ช๐—ต๐—ผ ๐—ฌ๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—”๐—ฟ๐—ฒ
Before setting a boundary, communicate openly and directly:
โ€œ๐™„ ๐™™๐™ค๐™ฃโ€™๐™ฉ ๐™ซ๐™–๐™ก๐™ช๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ. ๐™„๐™ฉ ๐™ข๐™–๐™ ๐™š๐™จ ๐™ข๐™š ๐™›๐™š๐™š๐™ก ๐™ช๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ข๐™›๐™ค๐™ง๐™ฉ๐™–๐™—๐™ก๐™š.โ€

This is your first attempt to bring awareness to your values and how you feel based on those values not being honored.

If they continue to disregard your feelings, you need to take it a step further:

๐—ฆ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐Ÿฎ: ๐— ๐—ฎ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฅ๐—ฒ๐—พ๐˜‚๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜
If they ignore your initial expression of who you are, make a clear request:
โ€œ๐˜ผ๐™จ ๐™„ ๐™ข๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™š๐™™, ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ข๐™–๐™ ๐™š๐™จ ๐™ข๐™š ๐™ช๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ข๐™›๐™ค๐™ง๐™ฉ๐™–๐™—๐™ก๐™š. ๐™’๐™ž๐™ก๐™ก ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช ๐™–๐™œ๐™ง๐™š๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฉ ๐™™๐™ค ๐™ž๐™ฉ ๐™–๐™œ๐™–๐™ž๐™ฃ, ๐™ฅ๐™ก๐™š๐™–๐™จ๐™š?โ€

At this point, youโ€™re showing that you have self-respect, and youโ€™re giving them the opportunity to show they respect you.

If they donโ€™t take it seriously or dismiss your request, then itโ€™s time to establish a firm boundary:

๐—ฆ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐Ÿฏ: ๐—ฆ๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐—ฎ ๐—•๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐˜†
When your request is ignored, you must draw a clear line of the consequence that will happen:
โ€œ๐™„๐™› ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช ๐™™๐™ค ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™–๐™œ๐™–๐™ž๐™ฃ, ๐™„ ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ก๐™ก ๐™ก๐™š๐™–๐™ซ๐™š.โ€

This is not a threat or an ultimatumโ€”it is a firm declaration of what you will do if they continue to disrespect you. This step is important because it informs them of the direct consequence of their actions. Thus, if they continue, then they are choosing the consequence.

๐—ฆ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐Ÿฐ: ๐—˜๐—ป๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—–๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—พ๐˜‚๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ
If they break the boundary you clearly established, follow through on the consequence:

๐Ÿ”น Leave the conversation.
๐Ÿ”น End their access to you until they change their behavior.
๐Ÿ”น If necessary, end the relationship completely.

By enforcing the consequence, you are reinforcing that your boundaries matter and that you are serious about them.

๐—ง๐—ต๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—œ๐˜€ ๐—ก๐—ผ๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—จ๐—น๐˜๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐˜๐˜‚๐—บ
Many people confuse boundaries with ultimatums, but they are fundamentally different.

๐˜ผ๐™ฃ ๐™ช๐™ก๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ข๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ช๐™ข is a manipulative tactic used to control someone by issuing extreme threats without clear communication or mutual understanding.
๐˜ผ ๐™—๐™ค๐™ช๐™ฃ๐™™๐™–๐™ง๐™ฎ is a healthy and necessary limit you set to protect your well-being after giving the person multiple chances to respect you.

Youโ€™ve already:
๐Ÿ”น Clearly stated what you value and how their behavior makes you feel.
๐Ÿ”น Made a direct request for change.
๐Ÿ”น Established a boundary with a consequence.

๐—œ๐—ณ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐˜† ๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ป๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ, they are showing you that they do not respect you. At this point, enforcing the consequence is not about punishing themโ€”itโ€™s about protecting yourself from toxic behavior; itโ€™s about self-care and self-value.

๐—ช๐—ต๐˜† ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—”๐—ฝ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ต ๐—ช๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ธ๐˜€
Dealing with a Level 3 consciousness person requires unwavering clarity and follow-through. Setting and enforcing boundaries teaches them that their actions have consequences and that they cannot treat you with disregard.

By following these steps, you are ensuring that you:
๐Ÿ”น Stay true to your values.
๐Ÿ”น Maintain your self-respect.
๐Ÿ”น Avoid being manipulated or disrespected.

Boundaries are not just about managing others; they are about teaching people how to treat you by what you allow.

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